Introduction Don’t chase women; they’ll chase you –Morgan Freedman (ladies man) I’m already 2 days into my Target dating scouting, and I don’t like it at all. I’m just there, for one purpose of finding a date, and thinking that I’ll just bump into someone and be like, “Hey! Let’s date, also, I really don’t go out that often and Target is my only social outing” I want gather skills that will make me valuable to a social group....
Introduction So day 2 of Target scouting for dating. Results were more informative this time around. One major factor I changed was the timing. Instead of staying between 5pm-5:30pm, I stayed starting at 6:30pm and, from curiosity, ended up staying until 7:30pm. Data Ignoring the labels and drawings on the above map, this figure generically shows the layout of the store I’m visiting. Nothing really happens on the west and northwest side (just like the pacific northwest)....
FYI You’re allowed to give yourself a new label, and start playing that role—anytime, anyplace. You’re also allowed to relabel any view you hold on yourself, other people, and the world around you. Relabeling comes from core beliefs, not just about you, but what you belief about other people, and the world (CBT). There is no perfect timing, nor routine. That’s what makes the mind amazing :) Practical Applications We’re all playing by a label that depends on (1) who we are with (2) our environment...
Realization “We become what we habitually think about” is a true statement. But the idea of “choose your thoughts, choose your reality”, needs an update. Because the more I think about it, the more I realize that it’s the mislabeling of things that fuck us over. TM + CBT have really helped me with this. So, a more ACCURATE thinking is ““choose your LABELS, choose your reality” Of course, seek realistic and wholistic labels, but at least something that gives truth to why things are the way they are....
TL;DR I always thought that speaking mantras was a bunch of bull crap. But, there’s a bit of practical nuance to it. Speaking mantras/values/principles in your head, during the pause that happens before responding, increases the likelihood that your words and actions will be better aligned with your goals. Another way to look at it: it’s “frame-setting”. You have giving you and the situation a label that’s in alignment with how you wish to act....
Introduction Today was the first day I test the theory of “the best place to meet women is at target”. I’ve read this quote before many places on the internet, and I’ve never taken action on it–but that changed today. As a single guy who has never dated, I figured I can give this theory the 30-day challenge to see to what extent this theory holds Observations I went at around 5pm, to one store....
TL;DR Spoken articulation of Jordan Curiosity of Leonardo da Vinci Discipline of Jocko Willink Body of Chris Bumstead Humor of Kevin Hart Deep thinking of Aristotle Confidence of Mohammad Ali Enthusiasm of Steve Irwin Empathy of Gary Vee Compassion of Keanu Reeves Fearlessness of Andrew Tate Grit of Gordon Ramsay Future of Elon Musk Vision of Steve Jobs Adaptability of Bear Grylls Clarity of Naval Ravikant Courage of Atticus Finch Unreactive Calmness of Shaquille O’neal Openness of Mahatma Gandhi Charisma of Gonzalo Lira Leadership of Martin Luther King Jr....
TL;DR Ego and protecting your image is what is holding you hack from experience life. My Personal Experience I was in the car with one of my brothers, when he noticed that he had dandruff. Rather than becoming concerned over it, he started shaking his head and jokingly saying, “Look! It’s snowing!” Isn’t that such a great attitude? Growing up, I was quite focused on protecting my image because I would prioritize health and I enjoyed being athletic....
TL;DR Everyone is born with respect. Treat everyone with respect. Treat everyone as an equal. It does not cost you anything to show appreciation, respect, and gratitude. Respect and kindness compound forward. Why? Because the habit of treating people well will translate into attracting great relationships that will server you when you grow old.
TL;DR Positive Psychology. Unless you take action to change your situation, why are you upset with where you are, if you are choosing to not take any action? Even if the choice is undesirable, it is something that’s moving you away from a worse situation you used to be. Choose to be happy. Because death is the only guarantee, and you will have wished you had enjoyed the gift of being alive much sooner....