TL;DR
Whom am I speaking to? Who is this going to help?
My Practical Experience
My Mind Dump.
I can’t say much because I’m not in a relationship myself, but these are my observations based on couples who are together for a long time despite always having drama.
The drama is just an emotional outlet. Most humans need an outlet to just act irrational and play with dumb ideas, because we really don’t know what ideas are dumb until we test them out in a safe environment.
When your partner acts dumb or gets overly upset or pissy, they are simply unwinding their heavy burden of adulthood with you. It’s a blessing.
I used to watch and see my parents fight all the time, thinking there was something wrong. Quite the contrary. They are simply playing unique roles that benefit them both. My dad is a laid-back optimist, while my mom is a perfectionist pessimist. Together, they have created the best family ever, but on the outside, it appears that my mom is always picking on my dad, and my dad can never catch a break.
But these two would be fucked without each other. My dad earns quite a good living, but he does not need much and may not find much fulfillment without a big family, because he genuinely loves being with kids.
My mom does not earn nearly as much as my dad, and she’s interested in ideas and research which lead her to her perfectionistic, ideal outlook on life. But without a stable man who can bring stability, he dreams of a big family would never be realized.
When I’m with my younger brothers, I act immature, silly, and goofy, as if THEY were the adults. It’s so funny, and I love doing it, because it takes the burden of life off just a bit, and makes me a happier person when I come back to reality, which makes my active building of life much better. But from the outside, my brothers are probably thinking why I’m acting so “weird”.