TL;DR
Leaving home address the root issue behind my addiction.
Follow these steps to get rid of negative habits:
- Increase resistance to negative habit
- Find something else to do in place of that habit
- Writing book reports, playing chess,
- Basically, any low friction activity where you are actively engaging rather than consuming
Whom am I speaking to? Who is this going to help?
The guy going through an addiction because he is doing less than what he knows he is capable of.
My Practical Experience
Leaving Home: My means of Achieving Freedom to Live as a Person
The issue I find when living at home is that I become the version of myself that best serves my family, but not the version that best serves me as an adult.
For as long as I live, my family is have “roles” of how each person is most likely to act. If you step outside of that role, family members will become confused, and will tell you that “that’s not you” as a way of bringing you back to the label they’re used to seeing.
Alex Hormozi released a video on this topic, and he describes this phenomenon so well. The case is that you are simply growing, leaving behind old identities, relationships, and roles that you’ve simply outgrown–to stay with those old patterns is in essence to commit a spiritual suicide on your mission because you will consciously be reminded by the limitations you are placing on yourself, and then you being to shrink and grow weaker.
When I was living at home, I was daily on edge, restless, and anxious, because I knew, for a fact, that if I stayed home, I would 100% throw my life away; I would not become the ideal version of myself that I could become. The mythology of Orestes describes this exact dilemma; a sort of spiritual incest that occurs when man does not leave his home to go explore the outside world for the adventure of a lifetime and ultimately “fall in love outward”
Using Technology
I also made it harder for me to access porn by writing a python script that will encrypt my most commonly visited sites and hide them behind a “wall” of affirmations, mantras, and visual representations of a better use of my time.
This solution works because when I watched porn, it was 95% re-watching something I’ve seen before and 5% searching for other content; this means I can create a “master list” of those 95% content that I view regularly and encrypt them so that there’s more delay in accessing that information.
For friction -> more delay -> more time to think -> more time to change my actions.
But make no mistake: leaving home is a closer solution to the root issue than the technology I used to treat the symptom.
How does this opinion explain how the world really works in a way that accurate, wholistic, and realistic?
A lot of miserable people will want to keep you around at the expense of your mission; don’t let your temporary ease of your pain cost you the mountain of gold that you’re destine to earn.
Given your thoughts and opinions, what practical actions can we take?
For me personally, I knew that living at home was a destructive act on my future; as soon as I realize this, I left. For cases where you notice that same thing happening, you too can do the same–leave immediately if it’s causing you a negative addiction response.