TL;DR If you want to learn how to work a room and attract/pull people towards you, start by listening to one person. Whom am I speaking to? Who is this going to help? The guy who finds himself in a social setting, with a room full of people, and trying to figure out how to “be social” My Practical Experience So I’m at at this training course, where I don’t know anyone, and I decide to try to practice my social skills by talking to someone....
TL;DR Practice the habit of asking for what you desire. The world favors those who develope the habit of courage to ask for what they seek. Whom am I speaking to? Who is this going to help? The meek, humble, goodie-too-shoes guy who does not want to hurt his self image or how others view him just by asking for what he really wants. My Practical Experience I’m creating this post more of an evidence of two of my principles:...
TL;DR Whom am I speaking to? Who is this going to help? My Practical Experience My Mind Dump. List of cognitive biases to study from Scott Adams’ book “How to Fail at Almost Everything and Still Win Big” Ambiguity effect In one sentence: We prefer options that are known/familiar to us The ambiguity effect is a cognitive bias that describes how we tend to avoid options that we consider to be ambiguous or to be missing information....
TL;DR Whom am I speaking to? Who is this going to help? My Practical Experience My Mind Dump. There’s no real rhyme or reason to this post; this is still a developing idea. I think back to how big minds like Ray Dalio and Naval Ravikant think; they don’t see things as good or bad, but more in the framework of evolution. In evolution, our environment determines the genes and traits we exhibit....
TL;DR Avoid the trap of optimization by going outside. Think OUTSIDE the box. Whom am I speaking to? Who is this going to help? The lone engineer who has optimized everything in his home, yet still feels sluggish and lazy; the guy who is working remotely, but lacking creativity. My Practical Experience There was a time when I was working remotely from home, and, despite having everything “optimized” (diet, steps, exercise, sleep, routine, etc....
TL;DR Listen more, speak less. The social value you provide to people is clarity. Listen to people, not for their advice, but for their sake. Whom am I speaking to? Who is this going to help? The guy who tells himself he has no “social skills” but in reality is underplaying the power of listening through genuine curiosity. My Mind Dump. Why Listen in the first place I personally experienced this when I was working with one of my mentors....
TL;DR We act in accordance to the habitual narrative we tell ourselves. Whom am I speaking to? Who is this going to help? The person with negative thoughts. My Practical Experience Here’s a practical example: how many times do we tell ourselves “oh, I forget what I was going to say”, or “I’m bad at remembering things”, etc. No. Stop telling yourself that. When I was driving, I remember thinking, “Shoot, what was I going to do?...
TL;DR Research was rampant in the mid 20th century because of the new cultural preference following WWII and the additional resources such as collaboration, funding, technology, and better statistical methods for experiments. Whom am I speaking to? Who is this going to help? The curious student wondering why research in the US is not that cool anymore My Mind Dump. When I think back to some of the great psychologists from the behaviorism movement, three people come to mind: Harry Harlow, Abraham Maslow, and Erik Erickson....
TL;DR If you’re smart, but you haven’t gone on any dates–literally just go out and do things. The intelligence trap is being stuck in your room, researching, when you could do the same work on a computer, but maybe at a coffee shop, or at the book store–and taking a break by exploring the area around you. Whom am I speaking to? Who is this going to help? The smart, humble kid who is still single...
TL;DR Whom am I speaking to? Who is this going to help? My Practical Experience My Mind Dump. Luke Belmar once mentioned in an interview how the difference between a 26-year-old Jamie Diamond and a 26-year-old degenerate “man child” is the information that they’re fed. We see a similar phenomenon happening between worker bees and queen bees. Here’s a quote from this NPR article: “Larvae that are fed mostly a bitter type of pollen combined with honey, a mixture called “beebread,” grow up to be worker bees....