TL;DR

People don’t like me because I’m an arrogant piece of shit–but that’s okay because I’m actively re-branding myself as someone who everyone wants to be around.

Whom am I speaking to? Who is this going to help?

My old, prude, arrogant, egoistic self who is really insecure about being judge my other people for exploring curiosity.

My Practical Experience

I’m a recovering prude. Let me explain.

Growing up, I would often label people in school between two camps: intellectually-inferior, and good.

I know, I hate to admit this, but I carried this mindset all throughout university, until I finally got a reality check NOW.

I would label people and act prejudicely based on their appearance and focus. Anyone who was relaxed, easy-going, and well liked I viewed as a future loser, because they were not focusing on school.

Unlike my brother, I was not curious about people, nor did I care wondering how other people lived their lives.

In university, I would literally go directly from class to my apartment, and I would not waste time going around campus or meeting people.

I had, in my mind, a singular goal of getting good grades and then getting a good job.

While that may have helped me to have a very stable 6-figure job, it now feels like all the other shit I ignored is now catching up to me.

My parents like my younger brother much more, and in turn, people around him simply enjoy having him around. The crazy part is that he’s also extremely smart and hard working.

I was fucking dumbfounded.

I even carried this mindset to my own family, which was just plain pathetic.

I was always trying to show how much better and superior I was my sounding smart–well guess what? When I treat people like that, I treat everyone like that, and I end up all alone with no friends.

Shit really does not matter.

I hate to admit it, but there was literally one time where my mother asked me if I could help drop the kids for school. She doesn’t normally ask me for this, but I literally told her, “I might be able to, but ideally, it would work better if you could tell me the day before”

I was so fucking stupid. What the fuck was the matter with me?? How can anyone plan for chaos “the day before?”. My mom doesn’t reach out that often, so when she does, why the fuck did I not even do such a simple thing?

Meanwhile, my younger brother is so selfless and family oriented. He puts everyone ahead of him, and extends favors readily. What a fucking G.

I was blinded by ego, and a sense of huge superiority. I’m doing my best to be more open and caring for others, without judging them so hard.

Because really, we all fuck up, and how can we grow if we judge people for being human?

That’s also what makes business grow–failure!

Because failure is simply the proclivity to take massive action, knowing that 99% of the results will be shit, but that’s okay, because that 1% is what you need to make it big for the people around you.

Thanks for the advice, now how can I practically put this to use in a simple way for daily execution?

Be ready to extend favors, and actively thing of ways to help the people around you.