TL;DR
Seek intimacy and connection, over hedonism and shame
Whom am I speaking to? Who is this going to help?
My Practical Experience
My Mind Dump.
“The cheapest sex is the one you pay for”.
Let’s unpack this sentence.
Interpretation 1: Inner decay
From one perspective, this can highlight the motives for pursing relationships. If you seek relationships for the sake of a “one night stand” or one for purely sexual pleasure, you will often find that there will be a high price to pay long term in both (1) the habits you develop and (2) the unintended emotional package and sudden expectation for more brought by the other person
When I speak of habits, I mean not only the method through which you engage in future relationships, but also the lense through which you view yourself; by engaging in casual sex, you treat yourself as someone not to be taken seriously. Your ability to form intimate bonds will greatly diminish, as you train yourself to treat yourself and other people as instrumental objects of short-term pleasure. Beyond the sexual lense, you also practice short-term hedonistic gratification, which will eventually spill into your other habits such as how you form friendships, work connections, family, and life purpose.
Interpretation 2: Ideal Sex
From another perspective, we find the inverse to be ideal, “the most expense (and by proxy, the most high quality) sex is the one you do not pay for”
interpretation 3: Pragmatic Efficiently of basic needs
This viewpoint suggests that paying for sex may be a more efficient means of satisfying sexual desires without the need for emotional attachments or long-term commitments.
One could argue that legalized prostitution may do more to protect marriages that suffer from a lack of sexual potency, but still have close intimacy.
Though, this may be easily refuted by claiming that sex is intended to be the most intimate act between couples.
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