practical-tips

TL;DR Whom am I speaking to? Who is this going to help? My Practical Experience My Mind Dump. What is anger? “Anger is a loss of control over the situation.” – Naval Ravikant Exert from The following notes come directly from Dan Mager, you can find his original post here Anger takes place in the present when life isn’t going the way we think it should. In this way, anger has a corrosive effect — it is a “fight” or struggle against present-moment reality, and a refusal to accept what is....

TL;DR Choose “preferences” over “necessities”. Whom am I speaking to? Who is this going to help? The type-A person who struggles adapting to reality. My Mind Dump. The quick fix Many times we tell ourselves that we need something to function well. “I need my coffee”, “I need my rest”, “I need my peace and quiet”. But these necessities get in the way of our attempt toward progressively realizing our ideals....

TL;DR Whom am I speaking to? Who is this going to help? My Practical Experience My Mind Dump. It can be easy to get into the habit of consuming. We consume TV shows, food, space, speaking time, etc. Now I’m starting to think how I can contribute. For example, for each book I read, I should do an equal but opposite writing/speaking of my ideas. I’ve already started seeing the benefits of listening more than I speak in conversations, so I won’t add much else to that....

TL;DR If you want to learn how to work a room and attract/pull people towards you, start by listening to one person. Whom am I speaking to? Who is this going to help? The guy who finds himself in a social setting, with a room full of people, and trying to figure out how to “be social” My Practical Experience So I’m at at this training course, where I don’t know anyone, and I decide to try to practice my social skills by talking to someone....

TL;DR Practice the habit of asking for what you desire. The world favors those who develope the habit of courage to ask for what they seek. Whom am I speaking to? Who is this going to help? The meek, humble, goodie-too-shoes guy who does not want to hurt his self image or how others view him just by asking for what he really wants. My Practical Experience I’m creating this post more of an evidence of two of my principles:...

TL;DR Whom am I speaking to? Who is this going to help? My Practical Experience My Mind Dump. List of cognitive biases to study from Scott Adams’ book “How to Fail at Almost Everything and Still Win Big” Ambiguity effect In one sentence: We prefer options that are known/familiar to us The ambiguity effect is a cognitive bias that describes how we tend to avoid options that we consider to be ambiguous or to be missing information....

TL;DR Avoid the trap of optimization by going outside. Think OUTSIDE the box. Whom am I speaking to? Who is this going to help? The lone engineer who has optimized everything in his home, yet still feels sluggish and lazy; the guy who is working remotely, but lacking creativity. My Practical Experience There was a time when I was working remotely from home, and, despite having everything “optimized” (diet, steps, exercise, sleep, routine, etc....

TL;DR Listen more, speak less. The social value you provide to people is clarity. Listen to people, not for their advice, but for their sake. Whom am I speaking to? Who is this going to help? The guy who tells himself he has no “social skills” but in reality is underplaying the power of listening through genuine curiosity. My Mind Dump. Why Listen in the first place I personally experienced this when I was working with one of my mentors....

TL;DR We act in accordance to the habitual narrative we tell ourselves. Whom am I speaking to? Who is this going to help? The person with negative thoughts. My Practical Experience Here’s a practical example: how many times do we tell ourselves “oh, I forget what I was going to say”, or “I’m bad at remembering things”, etc. No. Stop telling yourself that. When I was driving, I remember thinking, “Shoot, what was I going to do?...

TL;DR Whom am I speaking to? Who is this going to help? My Practical Experience Do everything, and learn as much as you can, so you can distil what you know into the most important 20% the returns the 80% of the results. I’d imagine that salsa dancing is very comlicated, but what if I became so good at it, that I could teach someone how to dance is just 10minutes?...