TL;DR Whom am I speaking to? Who is this going to help? My Practical Experience My Mind Dump. It can be easy to get into the habit of consuming. We consume TV shows, food, space, speaking time, etc. Now I’m starting to think how I can contribute. For example, for each book I read, I should do an equal but opposite writing/speaking of my ideas. I’ve already started seeing the benefits of listening more than I speak in conversations, so I won’t add much else to that....
TL;DR If you want to learn how to work a room and attract/pull people towards you, start by listening to one person. Whom am I speaking to? Who is this going to help? The guy who finds himself in a social setting, with a room full of people, and trying to figure out how to “be social” My Practical Experience So I’m at at this training course, where I don’t know anyone, and I decide to try to practice my social skills by talking to someone....
TL;DR Practice the habit of asking for what you desire. The world favors those who develope the habit of courage to ask for what they seek. Whom am I speaking to? Who is this going to help? The meek, humble, goodie-too-shoes guy who does not want to hurt his self image or how others view him just by asking for what he really wants. My Practical Experience I’m creating this post more of an evidence of two of my principles:...
TL;DR Whom am I speaking to? Who is this going to help? My Practical Experience My Mind Dump. List of cognitive biases to study from Scott Adams’ book “How to Fail at Almost Everything and Still Win Big” Ambiguity effect In one sentence: We prefer options that are known/familiar to us The ambiguity effect is a cognitive bias that describes how we tend to avoid options that we consider to be ambiguous or to be missing information....
TL;DR Whom am I speaking to? Who is this going to help? My Practical Experience Do everything, and learn as much as you can, so you can distil what you know into the most important 20% the returns the 80% of the results. I’d imagine that salsa dancing is very comlicated, but what if I became so good at it, that I could teach someone how to dance is just 10minutes?...
TL;DR Hobbies should be attempts to manage your weaknesses, rather than doubling down on your strengths, because it (1) gets you in the habit of accepting to be bad at something, but then realizing through practice that you can improve (2) improve creativity to arrive at novel and creative solutions, in work and in life. Whom am I speaking to? Who is this going to help? The one-dimensional loser who is socially awkward....
TL;DR Value what you have while striving for what you want, by taking advantage of what you already have. Whom am I speaking to? Who is this going to help? The insecure guy who does not value what he has. My Practical Experience I learned this while talking to my Spanish teacher. My Spanish teacher is charismatic, likeable, enthusiastic, and a playboy who was a natural lady’s magnet. Like any guy who spends most of his time working with computers, I was naturally envious of my lack of charisma and social calibration compared to his....
TL;DR It is our attitude at the beginning of a test which, more than anything else, will determine its successful outcome. Problem solving can be accomplished through a calm state of mind and a positive attitude. Solving problems is a lot like solving puzzles, and having a calm state of mind is the key to unlocking the solution. Relax. Take it easy. Then, the solution will reveal itself. Whom am I speaking to?...
TL;DR It does not cost you anything to show respect, kindness, and genuine interest to other people. Yet, it pays back extreme dividends. Whom am I speaking to? Who is this going to help? That isolated shy person who thinks everyone is stupid. My Practical Experience I was at chiptole, already establishing myself as a regular customer, when I see the same empoyee working there. He generally seemed to have a “cool nice guy” asthenic–the kind of guy who was well liked, did his job well, and overall likeable person....
TL;DR To be honest, I don’t know how to explain this into a single sentence yet. Whom am I speaking to? Who is this going to help? The good intentioned, but not well socialized, ambitious person who wanted to achieve greatness. My Practical Experience I used to be that guy who took his job too seriously. But there’s something that all people who take their jobs too seriously fail to account for:...